Vicky Ross has been a key trainer to the team  at the Jenrick Recruitment Group for several years. Recently she offered to write an article on Leadership, and specifically the language of Leadership, for the Jenrick Blog: The big question I have always heard people ask is whether Leadership is learned or developed.  I say both.  Some people, because of their environment that they have been raised in and their parents, school etc, have developed the personality that creates Leaders. Others have the yearning to become Leaders and therefore get into personally developing themselves and get there anyway, eventually.  The difference is the time that it takes and how effective they are as Leaders to get results. So for this article the question I want to answer is...

Do Leaders speak differently from the rest of us and if they do can one learn ‘Leader speak'?

Before I answer that, you need to understand that we experience life through our five senses.  They then get converted into memory.  To do that we need to judge and give meaning to events so we can know what they are and what they mean. When we do that, we store our version of the experience that has been filtered through our values and beliefs.  In other words, things that are high on our value system we think are good and what is lower down, we think of as bad. All our thoughts and feelings, our ideas, our values and beliefs are stored within us.   All our ideas and how we see the world come from what we believe inside of us about the world and ourselves.  When someone speaks, if we knew how to listen we could hear how he or she feel about themselves, what they value and what they believe about life.  Within the language there are hidden words and meanings to what people want to say.  We have not been taught to consciously understand our unconscious language that we use to express our feelings and thoughts. Good leaders have a lot of good attributes, like being charismatic, persuasive, influential, assertive, visionary, having high integrity, respect for themselves and others etc.  What makes a good Leader is the way one feels about themselves and mainly it is down to passion.  When people are passionate about what they do, and have a high level of belief about themselves and what they are talking about, they become charismatic and influential. What we hear in those is ‘Leadership Language’ which is a word for a high level of passion and belief. When people feel uncertain and not good enough inside themselves, they can’t lead.  They don’t feel valuable enough to contribute ideas; they are too scared to step out of their comfort zone and risk being wrong.  Sadly on some level, most people will recognize this within themselves and therefore they don’t want to become Leaders in the first place.... as they might get found out. Leaders will see the world and think about how they can make it a better place and have the confidence to step out of line and create a better environment for themselves and others. They will look at something and ask themselves how can this be better how can I make this more efficient. They are risk takers because they will try something that hasn’t been tried before and they can do so because of their high level of self-belief.  They try it because they are passionate and they believe in themselves and the resources that they have to make it happen. So there is no magical leadership language.  What we hear when Leaders speak is actually how they feel about themselves.  They are people that are passionate and believe in themselves, are confident about what they can do and can influence in a charismatic way that will move the world, and the world will follow. FURTHER INFORMATION AND RESOURCES Vicky Ross is a leading communications expert that enables business managers to empower their teams to do better business.  She specialises in Personal and Executive Mastery and has various personal programmes as well as business training packages to offer.